Stuck in a Rut? Check out 5 Simple Steps to Living a Better Life

In today’s world it is common for people to go from having a successful and exciting life to suddenly being in a rut. We often get caught up in the hustle of life and when we finally have a second to breath we are asking ourselves where the hell are we and how did we even get here. I know this from personal experience. If you are a common visitor of my blog you may have realized this as well. I have been trying to write this post for about two months now but I never really could, until today. That is because I have finally gotten out of my rut. So in this post I am going to share with you my 5 simple steps for living a better life and getting out of a rut.

Step 1: Focus on moving forward

I was trying to figure out how I got in a rut in the first place and I realized I wasn’t getting anywhere but when I focused on how to get out I quickly noticed results. This step is going to mean something a little different for everyone but in general, simply change up your routine. This doesn’t have to be anything dramatic small changes make big differences. The key is if you make a small change but it isn’t making a difference try something else until you see results. I know this seems very simple and general but once you have read through all the steps this one should make more sense and have a more specific meaning to you.

Step 2: Set goals

In order to focus on moving forward and making change to get out of your rut you must set a goal. Weather it be big or small by setting a goal you are giving yourself something to work towards. It is important when setting a goal to make it something that is achievable but is not easy. Also make it something specific. General goals are easier to get lazy and give up on.

When I was in a rut I found myself unmotivated and always sitting on the couch watching tv. So I set my first goal to be more productive when getting home from work and not sitting on the couch and watching tv all night. I told myself I had to do five things every night before I could watch tv. So when I got up in the morning I would make a list and put it on the fridge. MY list would usually include cleaning, errands, and general day to day activities I had been slacking on. After a few weeks I realized that my routine had changed and I had reached my goal of being more productive without having to think about it. Which take us into step three.

Step 3: Break Down Your Goals

When setting goals break them down into smaller steps to make them more achievable. Also make sure you set specific guidelines; like the five things before I could watch tv. Everything we do in life has a process when you truly think about it. This should be the same for achieving our goals. If you can achieve your goal in one step then try to add more details or specifications to make it slightly more difficult.

Step 4: Recognize When you have reached your goal

Reaching your goal is going to depend on many different factors but it is important to recognize when you have reached your goal to avoid getting into another rut. Like I said earlier it took me a few weeks to achieve my goal. Giving myself 5 chores a day and sticking to that wasn’t a very challenging goal though. That is ok! I wanted to start myself on an achievable goal that wouldn’t take me long. That particular goal was to get me out of my rut and set a foundation to keep improving life.

Step 5: Set new Goals and Repeat the process

Congratulations! You have successfully achieved your goal. Now it is time to repeat the process, only this time set a new goal. It can be something along the same lines or multiple goals. It could be a goal that will take you years to complete. Just set another goal and work through the steps again. Just remember that your goals may change along the way and not every goal set will be achieved easily or at all.

If you take away anything take away this.

Do one thing a day that will make your life better tomorrow.

Weather it be working out, eating healthy, giving back, waking up earlier. Just do one small thing a day that will make your life better tomorrow because by doing one thing a day over time they are going to add up and amount to something much larger. Okay that seems like something pretty obvious. When you sit down and think about what the one things a day is going to be is when you will notice change. 

I hope this post helps you to achieve your goals and leads you to a better life. I would love to hear all of your goals in the comment section. If you are looking for more motivational posts check out Motivational Monday post or Finding Motivation.

Finding Motivation

Do you ever feel like life is passing you by while you just sit there and watch? Its like your thinking about how day in and day out you do the same thing over and over again. You ask yourself how you let this happen to you, yet you continue the cycle over again until you realize another week has past with no change.

Well that is how I feel. Ever since we moved I have been lacking motivation. I find myself doing the minimum to make it by and when I try to make a change or do something new I eventually resort back to my old ways. I have recognized that I do not like the person I have become but I cannot find the motivation to change it. I feel like I don’t know who I am any more but I also don’t know who I want to be. My hobbies nowadays include going to work, watching tv, cooking, and sleeping.

My biggest wake up call was lack of energy. I found myself sleeping till 10 am and being tired and ready for bed at 9pm. I noticed at 3pm I would start to drag and lose all motivation. I would watch the clock at work as it slowly ticked by. My work progress would dramatically slow down.

So I decided to make a change because I knew I didn’t want to continue to live like that. I noticed my weekends would be full of energy and I would actually break my habit so I knew I needed to keep it up during the week.

I highly recommend this book.

A while ago I actually bought a book called You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero. After I got the book I read a few pages and tossed it to the side. I remember thinking it wasn’t the book for me and decided not to read it. Looking back I realize that at that time I was correct in that moment that it wasn’t the book for me. Now after I found it in a box while unpacking I know it is the book for me. I have read a few chapters and I find myself relating to it a lot. 

It has made me realize that I am afraid to commit to anything because I am afraid of failure. I know that change and success won’t happen over night but I am trying. I highly recommend this book though. It is eye opening and relatable (at least for me). It really makes me think about not only my life currently but in the future. I honestly didn’t think I would be the one to read self help books but I am really enjoying it.

I am enjoying it so much that I have decided to add a new section to my blog called book club. So for those of you who don’t have time to read this book but you really want to you can follow along there. I am going to summarize the book chapter by chapter as I read it. The chapters are pretty short so I may group a couple together. Then hopefully I will keep it up as I continue to read.

Find the book here.